BEST New Year's Goal

Best New Year's goal!  

If you know me, you are guessing that I am telling you physical exercise is the best goal, because exercise is my professional and personal passion. I love to help people figure out how to make exercise part of their everyday life and to reap ALL the extensive benefits of exercise! (Feel free to talk to me about exercise! Also search on my blog post "exercise".)

Spiritual exercise is even more important.

This year make it your goal to WRITE GOD"S WORD ON YOUR HEART.

1.Take the weekly Bible verse challenge. 

https://www.lcms.org/worship/memory-verse-challenge?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

Write the verse on your bathroom mirror with dry-erase pen. For other ideas on how to memorize Bible verses, read this blog post: https://karensuemurdy.blogspot.com/2023/07/what-is-written-on-your-childs-heart.html

2. Go to church every Sunday; hear the Word of God, fellowship with the body of believers in Christ.

When Mom was dying of cancer, a young man commended her strength for peace and faith during such a difficult journey. She replied, "It is not me that is strong, it is God who gives me strength. Be in God's Word every day and worship in church every Sunday." She explained to him, "You have to plan ahead and prioritize going to church every single Sunday."

3. Teach God's Word to your children. More so than ever in a world of fake news, airbrushed photos, AI, etc. truth needs to be taught to our children. 

My Doctor husband often has patients ask, "Am I going to die?" 

"Yes, you are going to die; the death rate is 100%," he quickly replies. "But, probably not today."

EVERY single person is going to die (unless they happen to be around for the day Christ returns).

The Good News from the Bible "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standards. Yet, God in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty from our sins." Romans 3:23-24

A favorite speaker from LWML, Ida Mall, declares, "If it is not about salvation, it is not important." At the end of the day, nothing except God matters. 

HAPPY 2024!

What will this year bring for you? Whatever this year brings, spiritual exercise of being in God's Word will make it better.


Fifteen Hundred Miles of Valuable Time

How many minutes do you spend in the car in one week? during holidays traveling to family and friends? in one year?

After we had our third child, we no longer flew to our annual Lake Powell, Utah trip. At the end of the first day of our almost 1500 mile trek, I felt distraught. Everyone was in their own world with headsets and cd or mini dvd players. Although we were physically together, it felt like each person was in their own world. And only two plus more days to go. "No more!" I declared at the end of the day. We were in this together. The next day-not without some initial rauccous complaining- I set new travel ground rules. No more long headset days. Instead we would read books together. We would listen to cds and watch dvds as a family and discuss them, etc. This was the beginning of learning and exploring as a family, turning minutes and miles in the car into insightful discussions, important learning, and special memories.

Together, we listened to and discussed many of the audio episodes of Adventures in Odyssey.  https://app.adventuresinodyssey.com/ Years later when I was preparing a talk for a MOPS group, "Pay it Forward, Top Ten Tips for Passing the Torch of Truth" I asked my then 20 something year old son what was influential in the growth of his faith. One of his answers was Adventures in Odyssey. "It helped me to see how to apply God's Word into action in real life- often difficult scenarios in everyday situations."

Together we expanded our imaginations as we read books including C.S. Lewis Chronicles of Narnia, Laura Ingalls Wilder Little House Series, etc. (Read about more book ideas here: https://karensuemurdy.blogspot.com/2023/11/a-gift-that-lasts.html ) 

Together we  repeatedly listened to a 12 minute history time line set to music and talked through what happened when and where in  history. Although our youngest was home schooled for a few years- the reason we got started with the timeline- it was a learning experience for all us. (For the first time in my life, I finally understood history and how it all fit together!) Everyone in our family had some history ah ha moments.  

Together we laughed our heads off with comedians like Tim Hawkins and Bob Smiley and books like Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Boys vs Girls series. And some times after hours in the car, we all were just stir-crazy silly.

Together, we worked on memorizing Bible verses. I picked verses-often by looking at the Lutheran Study Bible from Concordia Publishing House, which lists theme verse in the commentary at the beginning of each book of the Bible. Using index cards with a ring clip we put them in the order of the Biblical books.When we were in the car, we would review several verses. (I did not start this until my youngest was in middle school, but wished I had begun when my oldest was young.  Also, I would have added who wrote the book of the Bible and when it was written.) A great overview of the Bible. A great way to strength memory. A great way to write God's word on your heart. 

Calculate the minutes and hours you have with your family while you are on the road. (In Janesville, the farthest place in town was about 15 minutes away. In Austin, the farthest place in town is about an hour away; the closest is about 15 minutes. Crazy.) 

Minutes and miles of valuable time to TALK, LEARN, and LAUGH together. 

A Gift that Lasts

Is it my imagination or does "Black Friday" come sooner and sooner each year...long before the old fashioned version of the day after Thanksgiving? HA! 

As Black Friday approaches-whatever day that may be for you personally-here a few fun suggestions of great books if you are buying presents for children, families, or those young at heart. 

Recently my boys again told me, "Mom, please make sure you have the Phyllis Reynolds Naylor books to read to our kids some day!" On long car rides, when they were younger, I read the Naylor Boy/Girl battle series. We laughed our heads off together at the adventure of the shenanigans of a family of four Hatford boys living next to a family of three Malloy girls.  (Dare I admit, reading these books made me thankful for my four boys over three girls?!) There are 12 books in that series. I found this interesting tidbit from Goodreads, "Though Phyllis Reynolds Naylor grew up during the Depression and her family did not have a lot of money, Naylor stated that she never felt poor because her family owned good books. Her parents enjoyed reading stories to the children and her mother read to them every evening 'almost until we were old enough to go out on dates though we never would have admitted this to anyone.'" 

One Christmas, my sister told us about Max Lucado's, You are Special. Once we read that, our library expanded with many other books written by him-all well loved, read and reread. 

Here are some of our top picks from Max Lucado:

You are Mine

Because I Love You

Small Gifts in God's Hands

Jacob's Gift (A Christmas one.This one gives me goosebumps every time.)

Other Christmas favorites:

The Very First Christmas by Paul L. Maier (Love the questions of the boy, Chris.)

The Legend of the Candy Cane by Lori Walburg

Books by Arnold Ytreeide we could not put downAfter I read a few chapters to my family- from these exciting adventure books of fictionalized characters set in true Biblical accounts-I had to cheat... When I put my kids to bed, I pulled the book back out to keep reading ahead. We read the ones from around the birth of Christ in November and December and the ones about Jesus' crucifixion and resurrection during Lent and Easter. Here are some of the titles of  Advent ones:

Jotham's Journey

Bartholomew's Passage

Tabitha's Travels

A final "must have" in every home is The Treasure Tree by John & Cindy Trent and Greg & Norma Smalley. An engaging story of four characters needing to work together utilizing their different personality types to find the treasure. 

What are some of your favorite books to read as a family?

READING-A GIFT THAT LASTS A FOR A LIFETIME!

Some of our favorite family memories are reading together! 

Read aloud to your children. 

Make books readily available in your home.  

What are some of your favorite books?

This Black Friday hunt for book specials and use for a lasting gift.





Winter Whines, Proper Perspectives, and God's Grace

"The temperature is going to be 32 degrees tomorrow morning," my husband announced as I woke up today. "You will need to go turn the furnace on in the boat." UGH. 🌡❄

I knew colder weather was soon upon us and I have been dreading it. (I do NOT complain about the extensive 100 degree Texas sunny days!) After living in WI for 30+ years, surely I can handle a few cold snaps during fall and winter in TX.  I keep asking myself why is this temporary cold so bothersome? Finally I realized-the boat! Our camperesque live-on boat located closer to work to reduce commute time is the source of my cold weather stress. If the engines, generator, or water in the lines on the boat freeze, it wreaks havoc.

As I laid under warm blankets worrying and whiney about the cold and boat, a blog post I read yesterday came to mind and suddenly put everything into a totally different perspective...

From https://www.appleofhiseye.org

Micha's Devotion        https://www.appleofhiseye.org/connect/blog 

Written by Micha Cohen 

Now thanks be to God who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and through us diffuses the fragrance of His knowledge in every place. For we are to God the fragrance of Christ among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing. To the one we are the aroma of death leading to death, and to the other the aroma of life leading to life. And who is sufficient for these things? For we are not, as so many, peddling the word of God; but as of sincerity, but as from God, we speak in the sight of God in Christ. (2 Cor. 2:14-17)

In Bible college, I had a hermeneutics class where we focused on these four verses for a whole semester! They are now my life verses!

In Roman days there would be processions celebrating the return of a king with his captives behind him. We are Jesus' captives. We used to be captive to sin, but now we're HIS captives!

Whenever we talk about Jesus, people will respond in one of two ways. To some, we stink like "death." They respond in anger. To others, we're the sweet smell of Jesus, of "life." They praise God we're there!

One time while doing an outreach in Israel during Sukkot an Orthodox Jewish man came up and attacked us and tried to tear down our booth. He saw I was videotaping his attack and he hit me in the face a few times and stole my camera. Some secular guys took it back from him and returned it to me. Then two women in full Islamic coverings came over and asked, "Why did that man attack you?" We told them it was because we believed in Jesus. They asked, "Why didn't you fight back?" We told them again it was because we believed in Jesus. They asked if we had anything they could read about what we believed, and we gave them a New Testament in Arabic! Praise God!

It's worth it to find those whom God is drawing to Himself out there and be willing to face those who think we stink!

From Devotions from the Field, copyright 2013 Jews for Jesus.

Dramatically different perspective-people's lives and eternity... In the course of life, the boat and potential consequences of freezing is "small potatoes" to quote my brother. But the potential consequences of sharing Jesus is eternal! For a world that desperately needs HOPE, PEACE, JOY, the grace of Jesus is life-giving, now and for all eternity. 

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God and are justified by His grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus. From Romans 3 

In Jesus we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of trespasses, according to the riches of His grace, which He lavished upon us. From Ephesians 1

What are the "cold weather" situations that cause you to worry or whine? How can the importance of God's lavish love for you through the grace of Jesus Christ help you put life's priorities in perspective? How can you share God's love with others-starting with those closest to you and rippling out?

Power of a Kayak

 "Should we take it?" 

That question was always asked as we prepared to pack for our annual trip to Lake Powell. Initially friends insisted on loaning us a kayak; eventually as a family we "earned" a kayak. (Read about it here.)

On the one hand, the kayak added a lot of weight to our already heavily loaded vehicle transporting the six of us, plus everything we needed-food, bedding, books, clothing (mostly swim suits), etc.- for the middle of nowhere for two weeks. Additionally it was one more item to load and unload from the car in the desert heat.

But almost every year the kayak made the cut. Why? Because on the other hand, the kayak could stop and go.

GO 

In various spots on Lake Powell, potty stations are set up. Beaching the houseboat near the Rincon around mile marker 77 is always one of our favorite spots. (The fact that military planes sometimes buzz by low in the canyon is just one of the reasons we love it.) Nearby is one of the potty stations and the perfect way to get there is a nice quiet kayak run. (Yes, the houseboat has a tiny bathroom with a small potty, but you never want to risk it filling up before the vacation is over.)

One scary night, when we were returning from an emergency in the dark, we were trying to navigate our little motor boat around the rocks to return to the houseboat. Because of lack of depth perception in the dark, we needed another point of reference. Daniel took the kayak out with a big flashlight to help solve the problem. Thank God, for the kayak. 

If you are a high school boy at Lake Powell, it is a long way away from the girls back home in Wisconsin. If you have a particular sweety you want to talk to, you need to navigate to where you can see the cell tower at the top Navajo Mountain. ...Often from one of the locations we frequent on the lake, you can see Navajo from the top of the rocks on the other side of the main channel about one mile away. The kayak is the perfect mode of transportation to get to the opposite side of the lake in order to climb the rocks at a chance for cell service. 



STOP

Although, we often have a houseboat full of people (read more here), part of the allure of Lake Powell is quiet time. You are a speck in the grandeur around you. You want to soak it all in.  A quiet paddle in the kayak to rest in the middle of nowhere is ideal. God designed us to rest-physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally. In Mark 6:31 Jesus said, "Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while." (One of Lake Powell theme verses.) Our kayak time is valuable rest time. Rest is not just for the summer, but all seasons. To find more resources check out Run Hard. Rest Well.  How can you find rest?

We thank our friends, the Webbs, who began our tradition of the kayak, a tool for both going and stopping.

Your Brother Said What??

"Do you want to go house boating on Lake Powell? My brother invited us to go with him," my husband announced after work one spring day.

"Where in the world is Lake Powell? And a house boat? What is that-a house on a boat? Like you can just step out of the boat and into the water?" I dubiously replied.

"Lake Powell is in Utah. And yes a house boat is like a house on a boat & you can walk right off the edge into the water," my husband calmly answered.

More questions.  Like why in the world would I take my nine-month old baby to a place where he could crawl right off the edge and drown???

Ultimately we did join the adventure of the Murdy family's maiden voyage to Lake Powell on the "Tanya". My husband, myself, our baby, and eight of my in-laws on a 48 foot house boat in the middle of no where.  Certainly felt like God was pushing my limits?! 

If you fly from CA east, you will fly over a vast area of desert nothingness. You might see the long strip of the CO River from Page, AZ north which is 150 mile long Lake Powell. Very few roads- about six- in and out of Lake Powell.

It was an intense family time- dealing with keeping meat safe for eating in a desert for seven days with a camping refrigerator that sorta of worked about half the time, figuring out how to manage nap times with the three toddlers/baby aboard versus grown-ups who did not want to be quiet, trying to keep everyone cool in 105 + degree temps, managing the boat and anchors in some vicious storms, and so much more.

It was an incredibly beautiful time of nature-seeing the magnificent hand of God in the beauty and majesty of the rock formations and the dazzling light of the stars and moon in a place otherwise completely dark at night, the peace of being on the water in the middle of no where with no one except your 10 people around,

As we left, I wondered, will I ever return? 

There had been some extremely difficult times...Living with in-laws in tight and hot quarters, wondering if I was going to get food poisoning toward the end of the week with the uncooked barely cool meat, etc. After a tift with a family member, I took a long hike, but ultimately I had to return to the boat (or die in the desert). But I loved the time with my husband. (No cell phone service or phones out there at the time.) I loved living in this place of awe-inspiring nature. ( Nix Nature Deficit Disorder read this link.) I loved being on the water. (Water calls my name ever since a family took me boating when I was a little girl.)

"For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing." Isaiah 55

Did I return? Of the past 30 years, I did return 27 of those years! Incredible memories of special family adventures.  More stories of our Lake Powell adventures to come.

How can you create a time and space for unique family togetherness?


Who can identify these locations on Lake Powell?








HELP!

I was pounding my fists on the floor. I was laying face down beside my bed. I was pleading for God's help.  To say I was at my whit's end would be a big understatement. Over and over I struggled with my son. As a Mom, I was helpless. He was not my first child. I thought I had some parenting savvy. Nothing seemed to work. Everyone told me I was just not disciplining him enough. (This is my son who on his last birthday, I asked him to share some of his fun birthday memories from childhood. He quickly replied, "None. I was always in trouble on my birthday." OUCH!!)

Looking back, I asked for advice from pastors, counselors, family members, friends. Nothing helped. One pastor told me, "Some balloons just fly higher than others." One time in a family counseling session- with a counselor who had experience working at a troubled teen-age boys home- we watched our son run circles around the counselor. I was not sure if I should feel better or worse that the counselor could not handle him any better than we could. The one hour session lasted over two hours and at the break our other son, begged his brother to just stop so we could go home.

Multiple times, I lay face down by my bed pounding my fists on the floor in desperation- crying out to God for help. 


Eventually my sister found Total Transformation Program by James Lehman. and suggested it to us. My husband and I would go walking every weekend to listen to the next step of the program. Then we would come home and wait for a problem to arise with our son so we could do the homework for the week-a step by step what to do. In this program we all learned problem solving in a powerful way. The program also had a life ring- a 24 hour phone number to call if help was needed. I can still remember a number of times when I drove away from the house crying, parked and called the number to get help with how to handle what was the current crisis. The person on the line always calmed me down and helped me with the plan.


Then my neighbor found The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis and suggested it to us. Although it is often used for adopted children, it is also used for any child who had trauma especially at a young age. (In this case, in-utero trauma, several deaths of loved ones, and plane crash during his very early years.) This taught us he needed connection -encouragement, love, play, structure, etc.- not punishment. One spring day when he walked in from high school, off the cuff I asked him to do a minor chore in the garage. Immediately he went into a rage. I stepped next to him and put my hand on his arm (connection) as he continued to scream. (Every bone in my body protested what I was doing. This seemed counterintuitive to everything I thought as far as good parenting, but it was consistent with the "Connected Child" ideas.) Several minutes later-felt like a long time-the "fight or flight" was gone and he settled down. Calmly, I commented, "Wow, that was not very good. Can you explain what happened and can we have a redo of that? Much to my amazement he went back to the door and walked in again. I asked him to do the same thing with a bit more information

(structure) and he instantly went and did what I had asked. That event marked a major positive turning point in his behavior and our relationship.

He is now a very successful connector, an amazing problem solver, an excellent leader, and very fun to be with. We are so proud of him. 

Numerous times, my son called me in college. "Mom, thank you for not giving up on me. I know I was so bad, but you really helped me! Thank you!"

Why do I doubt God? Over and over, He provides for me! He did answer yes to my pleas for help.  As I think back to how hopeless I felt and how God sent help for me, I cry joyful tears!

Pray. Patience. Persevere.